Rancidity is a word of African origin that means resentment, hatred or ill will. In recent years, the term has become popular in Brazil to describe a feeling of heartbreak or dislike that one person holds for another, often covertly.
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This feeling can be caused by several factors, such as a fight, a misunderstanding or even a simple difference of opinion. When a person holds a grudge against another, they can express this feeling in different ways, including through language.
Below, we list five phrases that could indicate that someone has a grudge against you:
1. Sarcasm and irony
Sarcasm is a form of irony that consists of saying the opposite of what you mean. When someone says something sarcastic towards you, it could be a sign that they are trying to express their anger indirectly.
For example, if you tell someone you got a new job and they respond with, “Oh, I can't believe you got it!”, they may be feeling jealous or resentful.
2. Evasion in communication
Avoiding talking about certain topics or avoiding contact with you can be another sign of staleness. If someone used to talk to you openly about everything, but now avoids talking about certain topics or simply doesn't respond to your messages, they may be hiding something.
3. Excessive criticism
Reviews constants may indicate that someone is not happy with your behavior or actions. If someone is always pointing out your mistakes or telling you what you're doing wrong, they might be feeling stale.
4. Disinterest and apathy
If conversations with someone you used to get along with are now marked by indifference or disinterest, they may be feeling stale. If you used to talk animatedly about everything, but now your conversations are short and superficial, it may be that something has changed in the relationship.
5. Negative comparison
Comparing someone negatively to others is a way of expressing discontent or disapproval. If someone is always comparing you to other people, saying they are better than you, they may be feeling stale.
If you realize that someone has a grudge against you, your first reaction may be defensive. However, it is important to try to understand the root of the problem. It could be a misunderstanding or something deeper that needs to be resolved.
Open, sincere and respectful dialogue is always the best solution. If you have the courage, you can try talking to the person to understand what is happening. You can say something like:
“It looks like something is bothering you. Can we talk about this?”
This is a way to open the door to mutual understanding and the opportunity to strengthen the relationship.
If the person doesn't want to talk or if you don't feel comfortable broaching the subject directly, you can try to improve the relationship through small actions, such as:
It is important to remember that you cannot control the feelings of others. If the person is not willing to resolve the problem, you can only do what you can to improve the relationship.
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