Communication is important in many everyday situations, such as socializing with friends, doing job interviews, flirting, attending important meetings, and presenting college or school.
Furthermore, maintain interesting conversations helps reinforce your reputation, empathy and cordiality with your listener.
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For this reason, Matt Abrahams, lecturer at Stanford University and columnist for CNBC Make It, decided to share a phrase that can help significantly improve the quality of a conversation.
The most surprising thing about the story is that it is not a study carried out by him. In fact, he says he learned it from his mother-in-law, after talking to her for some time.
After absorbing the woman's knowledge, the speaker decided to share the learning with more people, aiming to help them have a better quality dialogue.
Matt reported that he grew up in a family where maintaining a conversation was difficult. This is because everyone spoke at the same time, without giving the other a chance to finish sharing their thoughts.
In this way, expressing yourself was something complicated, which was often left aside because you knew you wouldn't be able to do it.
When meeting your mother-in-law, he realized that a simple expression could make him talk better. It was something extremely simple, just saying “tell me more“.
It was surprising to him how this speech had a great impact, as it is a supportive phrase, which supports the interlocutor.
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The columnist also reinforced that people tend to treat other people's stories as “an opportunity to talk about themselves”.
While this may be true, acting this way often causes you to miss the opportunity to learn more about the other person.
To talk better, he also suggests saying things with the same effect as the suggested expression. Simple phrases, like “which part of this excited you the most?”, “Wow, what happened next?” and “How did you feel when that happened?” are ideal in such situations.
The secret behind this is that by supporting what someone else is saying, without shifting the focus to yourself, the easier and more enjoyable it becomes to carry on with a conversation.
Therefore, it is established that the best way to talk is to have the empathy to know how to listen to the person who is speaking, as well as knowing when to express your thoughts.
