In a world increasingly focused on work and the conveniences of modern life, many of us find ourselves find themselves stuck in a home-work-home routine, in which loneliness and isolation gradually take over. account.
However, there is a simple solution that can transform your life: “third place“. This is the place where you can simply be yourself, socialize and meet people you know, creating bonds and combating the feeling of isolation.
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Journalist Dan Kois takes us on a nostalgic trip to the pre-smartphone era, when people had three or four places after work where they could meet friends and acquaintances.
If you went to these places, there was a good chance you would meet someone you knew. Think of the series’ iconic Central Perk.”Friends” — a place where the characters met, talked and shared moments.
However, many of us today do not experience such a sensation. Our world has become faster and often lonely.
The search for new experiences has led us to avoid repetition, but it has also deprived us of meaningful connections.
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Sometimes simplicity is the secret to combating loneliness. Finding a “third place” can be a fortuitous discovery, as in the case of Kois, who started going to a cafe while walking his dog. puppy.
There, he met other dog walkers and neighbors and made valuable connections through casual conversation.
These small acts of kindness and social interactions are important for building community and breaking the cycle of loneliness. After all, it is connections with other people that make us truly human.
Go to a public place where you can remain without judgment
Your favorite coffee shop, climbing gym, dog park, yoga class, or even church could be excellent choices. Don't overcomplicate it, choose a spot you like and go regularly.
Go there at the same time and same days
Establish a routine. People are creatures of habit, and getting into the habit of going to a place at the same time will allow you to meet people with similar interests.
Talk to people
Don't be afraid to start a dialogue. Ask them what their name is and remember to use their first name. Small gestures like these make interactions more friendly and meaningful.
Remember to leave the house
In today's world it's tempting to always stay at home, as you can work, eat and exercise right at home. However, such a solitary existence can harm your mental health. Having a “third place” can be the key to a fuller, more connected life.
Next weekend, pick a place to visit and go out. You will discover that the “third place” itself can provide a happier and more balanced life.
